Saturday, September 6, 2008

Cancer sucks

My father-in-law died of lung cancer today. Even though we knew he couldn't last much longer, it still came as more of a shock than we thought it would. The saddest thing is how little either of us really knew him. On our last visit, which was last year, he had just found out that his cancer had come back (even after having a lung removed). Bill planned on trying to talk about some of their unresolved issues, but his dad's life was already so sad that Bill couldn't bring himself to bring them up. The few times that Bill actually picked up the phone, his dad didn't want to have any serious conversations. So, no closure.

Bill is a mess and he's all alone in a hotel room halfway across the country right now. I hope he gets some sleep tonight because he has to wrap up his job and start the long drive home tomorrow.

Tomorrow, I will have to figure out what we'll do about the funeral and book our flight to California.

3 comments:

DD Hunter said...

Lit,
I am so sorry for your loss. I know I am far off, but if you or bill need anything even if it is just an ear to talk to, let me know.

DD

Jenny said...

Big hugs to you both.

duchessjane.com said...

I am very sorry for your loss, and even more sorry that there was no closure. That makes it even tougher.